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It’s the 31st of December. In a few hours 2023 will be over and a new year begins. Originally, my plan for today was to do a big review of 2023 – the things we did each month, some highlights and new discoveries. I wanted to find all my favourite pictures.
However, apparently SJ is transitioning away from needing a nap. So, rather than having two hours to myself this afternoon I made salad with my toddler, did puzzles and read books to her.
Recently, I listened to a podcast episode by Kendra Adachi a.k.a. the lazy genius in which she said something along the lines that the ability to pivot is way more important than a good plan. Because circumstances change, unforeseen events happen and plans fail.
My initial reaction to this statement was resistance. If my plans don’t work out I need to work harder, right? I just need to be better, more disciplined, organised and focused.
Today, when after 45 minutes of trying to get to sleep SJ asked if she could get up I acutely felt that I had a choice. I could get annoyed at her for not sleeping, and be frustrated by this upending of my plans. Or I could take Kendras wisdom to heart and pivot.
So, I took I breath. And I decided to let it go. So often when days go like this I harbour resentment. I blame Edd or myself (more often Edd, if I am honest) and I get moody. But I didn’t want to do that. I still was tired (the previous night also involved very little sleep) and a bit disappointed but I decided that it’s okay.
And it was a nice afternoon. So different to how I had envisioned it but we laughed and there were ten minutes where I was knitting while SJ played and it was very chill.
So, maybe my resolution for 2024 is to become more ready to pivot. To not hold so tightly to my plans but to access softness and kindness for myself and my family.
For now, I hope you have a wonderful last evening of 2023 and a great start to the new year. May it be one filled with deep breaths, kindness and joy.
This post is day 7 of my 12 days of blogmas challenge. You can learn more about it here.
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Ahh it’s so hard to not take toddler sleep regression/resistances personally!! Hang in there and I will take a leaf from your book and try and be more patient with my 2 year old who is desperately to be “big” right now!
Haha indeed! Must be hard to fall asleep with someone next to getting increasingly agitated and telling you to “go to sleep already” 🙈😅