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It’s my second Mother’s Day as a Mother. I appreciate flowers and gifts and attention on any day but I have mixed feelings about Mother’s Day.
A day is not enough
On one hand, it feels like a band-aid. In our society Mother’s carry an immense load for which they receive no financial benefit. Mothering is uncool. Mums receives little recognition but are put under vast amounts of pressure. They are more likely to suffer from poverty and ill health. Their career prospects are reduced. One day a year to pay tribute to this vital contribution to the continuation of the human race is laughable.
Motherhood is both a burden and a privilege
On the other hand, and on a more micro-level, I don’t want to be thanked for loving SJ. I feel privileged to know and raise her. To be a mother in the first place. I know so many women who desire to have children and who would make such wonderful mothers. Why me and not them? I don’t know.
Also, I feel humbled that I am entrusted with the survival, wellbeing and upbringing of another human being. A child is so malleable, so observant and absorbent. Everything I say to her, to others and myself, the way I act, how I treat people, things, animals and nature, the way in which I spent my time, the choices I make, how I set priorities – it all influences and shapes her view of the world, other people and herself.
At times this responsibility feels overwhelming. However, it also is inspiring and exciting. Being able to lovingly direct, cheer on, encourage, celebrate and watch her go feels more purposeful to me than anything I have ever done before.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you
I had and have the huge gift in life to have a mother and father who cherished me and showered me with love and kindness. To this day, they are often the people I call first when I need advice, encouragement or friendship.
I love that I now get to pass on all the love that was poured into me to my own wonderful daughter.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you. I know this day can be painful for those who have lost mothers or children or are desiring to be mothers or have a difficult relationship with their parents. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
This is Day 82 of my 100 Day Project. You can learn more about my 100 day project by reading this post. If you want to do your own 100 day Project, I would recommend checking out the 100 Day Project website.